Kulthoughts
Did you not fight with your brother or sister in your early years? No-Not healthy!! What memories will you share about your childhood? What will you narrate to your children and their children later? What will you laugh at, when all brothers and sisters get together?
Now with the trend of just one child, they miss so many things like – Whom to play with, whom to talk to, whom to fight with, whom to compromise with, whom to share with, whom to care for? Basically, children learn so much by sharing their feelings, thoughts and ideas – all at home. They learn when to fight, when to keep quiet and when to compromise from the experiences with the family members. When the children get together, they exchange their experiences and learn lessons from these narrations.
I remember the way we used to fight when we were young (we are one brother and three sisters). My brother used to be very strong and when we three sisters could not win over him while fighting, one of us used to sit on him, one used to pull his hair (he used to get very irritated if someone touched his hair) and the last one used to him give punches and scratches with all the might. After this episode of hitting and getting hit, we used to approach our mom for a solution and then again, we all used to get our share of punishments. When we narrate these incidents to our next generation, they simply laugh at us for being so funny.
When I used to scold or sometimes hit my son for doing something wrong, my daughter used to come forward and protect him – what a shield Sir ji!! Now, when they are grown ups- she narrates the earlier things and requests him to divert her share of scolding to him, what a compensation!! Believe me, he does it sometimes!! An innovative way of dealing with punishments!!
A friend’s brother learned her signature and signed on the walls. When the parents asked about it, she got so much of hitting and scolding for something that was done by her brother. Even today he recollects and enjoys the incidents! What a way of entertainment or taking revenge (though a healthy one) those days!
Usually the mother gets on her nerves trying to separate the siblings and pacify them. The worst part is, no one ever gets pacified. At times they bring a situation of embarrassment in front of others. Guess what, one day, my sister’s children fought in the shop for a stool which both of them wanted to sit on at the same time. In doing so they scratched each other with their nails making blood ooze out of the scratch lines on the skin. Believe me, she just walked out of the shop as if the children were not her’s and sent the driver to fetch them later. Sheer embarrassment for my sister!!
If the siblings don’t fight, they are missing something in their life. I cannot imagine my childhood without these things- they are my golden memories forever. If only our parents had handy cams, they could have captured all these fights and contributed to a treasure of memories for the generations to come.
Moms should record a video of their children in action to be shown at later times as it will be great fun time for everyone. Maybe, after seeing one or two videos of them, when mom will be shooting the next event or just fetching the camera – they will stop the show- the show of their wrestling. What an idea to conserve energy of separating them!
Next time when children fight, take it in a healthy way, it is beneficial for their all round development. Nothing to feel bad about it- Believe me!! It might be against etiquette but not against the growth of the child.